How To Deal With Menopausal Rage

Menopause rage

Rage?

Yep, it’s a peri/menopausal ‘thing’.

Or. Maybe you’re suffering from anger?

That’s also a peri/menopausal ‘thing’.

This is one of the thornier aspects of peri/menopause and one that’s not always acknowledged.

Many women don’t realise this is even happening (it’s everyone else falling out with them – they haven’t done anything!) or they’re aware they’re acting out, they don’t know why and they’re embarrassed about their behaviour.

Either way, it’s a very real symptom and an important one to talk about as it can impact our greater life and relationships.

Perimenopausal Rage

But don’t worry you’re not going crazy.

There are plenty of memes online depicting meno women threatening to kill and while they’re amusing they’re also based on fact! I found this one on Pinterest. 😀

Let me say before we go further, there is a scientific reason for it.

It’s not you; it’s your hormones.

I hope that makes you feel immediately better!

Now, let’s dive in.

How Does Peri/Menopausal Rage/Anger Feel?

If you’re one of us lucky (not!) ladies who experienced the intensity of PMS or mood swings during your period or pregnancy it feels similar to that. However, in some cases, it can feel far more elevated depending on how much your hormones fluctuate.

Rage

Menopausal rage goes a bit farther than anger – it boils up and reaches a fever pitch before exploding. That’s rage.

Anger

Anger is slightly milder and something we’ve all experienced at least at some stage in our lives.

Irritability

If you’re more fortunate your short fuse may never get quite as far as rage on your meno journey – you might just get moody, intolerant or irritable. One study found that irritability is a common symptom for 70 percent of women.

How Rage Rolls

You may find yourself shouting at other drivers, nitpicking at your husband or worse throwing things at him, or saying things you’d never normally would to your friends and offending them hugely.

Real Life Example

I have a friend who has a history of throwing her toys out of the cot and storming off but recently  I notice it’s gotten worse. You can literally see her fuming and on the point of imploding and it’s always someone else’s ‘fault’. So many women don’t actually realise this is happening, that their mood has changed and they’re being offensive to their closest friends and family.

What Causes Peri/Menopausal Rage & Anger?

If you’re a regular reader here you’ll probably have guessed I’m about to say it’s to do with your fluctuating hormone levels – namely estrogen, progesterone, testosterone and cortisol.

When they’re doing their meno dance and bringing on hot flushes, sleep issues and all of those other pesky symptoms they also affect your brain chemistry and make you feel more angry and irritable than you usually would.

The female hormone estrogen – or rather the decline of it in our ovaries – is a major player on the meno journey as it affects so many physiological activities one of which is the production of serotonin in the brain.

Serotonin is often called the happy chemical and it’s an important neurotransmitter because it regulates our mood and acts like a happy pill.

Fluctuating estrogen can unbalance serotonin’s production and every time the level of estrogen shifts it throws serotonin levels off-kilter. That’s why you may go through periods of calm between the rage.

How To Deal With Peri/Menopause-Fueled Rage

1. Admit it

The first step is to admit you’re suffering from it.

Yes, it can be embarrassing particularly if you fall into the camp where you didn’t realise this is where you’re at.

It’s super important not to beat yourself up over it – quite frankly your self-esteem probably doesn’t need that – but instead take a strategic approach and move to take control over it. Give yourself permission to be honest and to be vulnerable.

2. Get help

I highly, highly, highly recommend getting yourself onto 40+. There’s a reason we supply it and that’s because it’s effective. We know this because we’ve personally lived it in addition to it being proven in clinical trials.

MenoMe 40+ usually works on your equilibrium within days (other symptoms can take longer) but the happiness quotient appears to uplevel quite rapidly. NB: I’m talking the majority of cases – some bodies may take longer.

Tip: If you’re on antidepressants or other prescription medications you can still take 40+, as it’s very safe.

3. Check your lifestyle.

There is a massive correlation between how we live our lives and our biochemistry, and indeed some lifestyle habits can trigger mood changes. These include things like caffeine, alcohol or sugar intake.

a. So that extra coffee or cupcake could be creating a bit of havoc in your nervous system just when you need to be calm.

b. Hydration is another biggie in keeping you balanced – it’s one of the reasons we’re such proponents of getting lots of H2O into you daily.

c. Love your magnesium. If serotonin’s your happy neurotransmitter, magnesium’s your happy mineral. Add a good B complex vitamin as well and you’ll have a dynamic duo to add to your 40+ repertoire.

d. Keep a food/mood journal and track how it rolls for you.

4. Introduce some mind-body therapies

Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, deep breathing, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

I promise you these techniques will give you the tools to be less reactive in life. They may sound a bit woo woo to some people, but if you take them on you’ll be in good company as many extraordinarily successful and educated folk swear by them. Think Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra for two.

Indeed, there are quite a few studies out now that show how these can be helpful for women during the meno years. You can give them a go by using an app on your phone or finding guidance via YouTube.

5. Exercise

There is no denying that getting that body moving will greatly impact your wellness, but it will also help you burn off your rage. Bonus? It also helps boost serotonin levels.

For Your Interest

Some medical pro’s have suggested there may be a link between having strong PMS symptoms throughout your life and experiencing super intense meno mood swings.

Peri/Menopausal Rage In A Nutshell

As women we’re conditioned to believe that it’s ‘bad’ to get angry, to be assertive and to speak out. We tend to be ashamed of it and it’s deeply upsetting to us if we feel like we’ve lost control.

You’ve heard of unresolved grief? We may hold unresolved anger too, so when we reach peri/menopause all of this suppression may need to find an outlet.

Any holistic doctor will tell you we can’t bury strong emotions.

‘Stuffing down’, particularly if you’ve done it for a lifetime can lead to depression. True fact.

Some health pro’s and researchers call it self-silencing and their research has shown this to be so. 

You’re not alone

We talk about many difficult symptoms of the peri/menopausal journey at MenoMe, but this one’s quite a tricky one. Please know that if you find it challenging, there are many others experiencing this too.

You’re not alone. I’d love to hear from you if you need a helping hand. I’ll reply to every single email so feel free to reach out to me at jennifer@meno-me.co.nz.

Or you can join our closed Facebook group.

Stay strong, you’re amazing 😀😀😀

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